I feel like it wasn't all that long ago that I had to write a similar post to this. Last night my dear Mother in Law passed away after an 18 month battle with cancer. She was hospitalized over Thanksgiving, and after a week stay, she was sent home with hospice care. Her sister, a retired nurse, also was with her pretty much every day. We, including all 8 of her brothers and sisters, her parents and several nieces and nephews, were able to celebrate her birthday last week, and she was talking and socializing and feeling okay.
On Monday my husband got a call to head to his parents house immediately. The family was able to really say our goodbyes, and she was still communicative. We have been in somewhat of a holding pattern since. But nothing can really prepare you for that phone call.
It's hard being the spouse this time. I am hurting myself, but I am hurting so much for my husband. It's hard to know what to do, when really nothing is going to fix it.