Thursday, December 19, 2013

An update...

I feel like it wasn't all that long ago that I had to write a similar post to this. Last night my dear Mother in Law passed away after an 18 month battle with cancer. She was hospitalized over Thanksgiving, and after a week stay, she was sent home with hospice care. Her sister, a retired nurse, also was with her pretty much every day. We, including all 8 of her brothers and sisters, her parents and several nieces and nephews, were able to celebrate her birthday last week, and she was talking and socializing and feeling okay.

On Monday my husband got a call to head to his parents house immediately. The family was able to really say our goodbyes, and she was still communicative. We have been in somewhat of a holding pattern since. But nothing can really prepare you for that phone call.

It's hard being the spouse this time. I am hurting myself, but I am hurting so much for my husband. It's hard to know what to do, when really nothing is going to fix it.

12 comments:

Angi said...

Oh Casey I am so sorry!! And right before Christmas, too. That is awful. You and your husband and family are in my prayers, let me know if there's anything I can do.

Erin said...

I am so so verry sorry to hear that :(

Meg Doherty said...

Casey, I am so very sorry. I know how you are feeling as the spouse as my fiancee's mother passed away after a 3 year battle with cancer in August. If you ever need someone to talk to, please let me know. I can only imagine how difficult Christmas will be for your family, so please know I am thinking about you!

JJ said...

I'm sorry for the loss of your MIL.

Thinking of you and your husband at this time.

Erika said...

I'm so sorry, friend. This is so sad...I hate it for you both. :( I will be praying for yall. Much love.

Micah said...

Hugs and prayers for all of you. Definitely makes this a tough time of year for the foreseeable future. Take care.

Becky Dougherty said...

I'm so very sorry for both of you. Thoughts and prayers this Christmas season. *hugs*

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I'm so sorry for you. It's terrible to lose someone any time, the holidays make it harder. My grandmom lost her cancer battle a year ago tomorrow.

Wishing you and your husband and his family peace and love.

Alison said...

I'm so so sorry for you both, Casey. I'm praying for you and your family! Sending some peace and comfort.

Michelle said...

Oh Casey I am so sorry. I completely understand. James' dad passed away a few months after we were married, and I had to be the one to tell him. Even though we knew it was coming, it was the hardest thing in the world to hear. Praying for you all.

Jen said...

I am just seeing this. My heart breaks for everyone, :( I am so very sorry.

Kristin said...

So very sorry for your family's loss :/

I remember just waiting for the phone call about my grandma..I knew it was coming, but when it was real, it was different.